You dont need a man to define you
This blog is written for men, talking directly to men. Men who have an interest in women whether heterosexual or bisexual. Even more specifically, the men who say that they want a strong, independent woman. The men who find powerful, determined women sexy. There are some things you need to know before you go chasing women who have their shit together.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Def Leppard - Make Love Like A Man
Be The Type Of Woman Who Doesn’t Need A Man
I am as goose-pimply about the Star Spangled Banner as the next apple-pie-eating woman, however, according to the World Economic Forum study , if you let a man define you in the United States you are placing yourself just below the stature of a woman in Barundi. I did not say this. The study said this. I am simply repeating the study results and I think most American women would be intrigued by the ranking of US gender equality, which is largely based on perceptions of women within our society.
And, although a study by Pew Social Trends shows that the US is closing the gap on gender parity in the workplace, this is only good news because the gender gap had been more like a canyon before now. These perceptions help shape corporate structures. All of the above being said and, furthermore, good to know, these are not the reasons I would give for a woman never letting a man define who she is. Now that I am outside the circle, I need not have such admirable traits.
My ex wanted to mold me into someone who reflected well upon him, not someone who was happy and satisfied for my own sake. This is pure conjecture, of course, because I am not sure I have ever brought a man breakfast in bed on a Sunday morning. But I think this could be true. I want to be seen in the same light regardless of whether he is hungry, tired or unhappy. It will never be accurate and it is likely to be just as toxic as their unhappy view of the world. Same goes for addicts and codependents.
The issues that make a person dysfunctional also color their perceptions. You are not a walking wish list made out solely for them. You are not a genie in a bottle although that would be so cool.
You could probably do much better describing yourself. Who are you? Get a notebook and go to town writing down descriptive words or statements positive ones you believe about yourself. To clarify, we are not looking for your self-describing list to include words like plain, drab, unexciting, fat, stupid, etc.
We are looking for positive words like hip, chic, fun, exciting, brilliant, healthy and sexy. If a man wants to have sex with you, he will glorify you to the heavens. If that man disappears, then what? How could she think I would ever go out with a hair stylist? I was just the stand in. No one, not even another character in your head, who maybe resembles your horrible first grade teacher who had a hairy mole on her chin, should define who you are except you.
And when you do define yourself, do it as though you were your own best friend and staunchest advocate. Lifelong writer, blogger, and Youtuber, Lee has worked as a feature writer for numerous publications from local newspapers to national magazines. She has worked in communications across industries from higher education to commercial manufacturing. As a divorce coach and life coach, Lee finds joy in helping others find joy. If you are interested in astrology, you can find her Youtube channel called Fresh Astrology.
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7 Reasons You Should NEVER Let a Man Define Who You Are
Love your partner fiercely, but always follow your unique dreams and desires. Be true to yourself. Not only because I was with the wrong men and kept trying to make things work where there was no way, but also because I was a queen of justifying, accommodating, and compromising. I accommodated men because I wanted to be liked and avoid rejection.
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Fellow Ladies: Guys Don’t Define You
You do not need someone else to conquer your fears, to take those leaps and those chances, and to make your dreams come true. You do not need someone else to hold your hand while you navigate the strongest currents and the most blazing summers. You do not need someone else to shine as brightly as you already do. Be the type of woman who finds worth in herself without validation from other people. Be the type of woman who loves herself without needing love from anyone else. Stop burning yourself and hurting yourself for people who do not love you. And stop putting other people before yourself. You stand tall on your own. You grow on your own. You do not need him, even though you think you do.
21 Quotes That Prove That NO Woman Needs A Man To Define Her
Age is not a factor. You will spend the rest of your listless life dragging your sorry arse from one meaningless life moment to another making no progress other than updating your Instagram feed. You snap a few photos, post one on Instagram with the appropriate filter , and try to recline for your afternoon nap. As the slippery puddle inches down the incline towards the sparkling waters of your infinity pool, you feel an anger building inside you.
Why did it take so long for him to text me back? How many minutes should I wait before I text him back? Or should I wait days? Should I add an Emoji, or does that make me look desperate?
Why Do We Let Men Define Us
Top definition. Man Up unknown. Don't be a pussy , brave it , be daring.
You don't need a man to know who you are, or what you're capable of. Getting married should NOT be viewed as an accomplishment. Ok, so you snagged a doctor or a lawyer or a businessman, so what? This isn't something to brag about. You are capable of doing amazing things! But you know that already and hopefully so does he.
Why You Will NEVER Become A Man
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Many men are temporary. Men come and go. It feels great when a guy tells you how special you are, but honestly, that should only make you feel good for five seconds.
This article was actually requested by a good friend of mine, but she made a good point. So many girls feel as though they need to be with a guy to define themselves. Each week Swoonie B will give her advice on anonymous topics submitted by readers. Want to Ask Swoonie B something related to dating and relationships?